January 28, 2010 | Posted by Doran Roggio
By Doran Roggio
“There is no failure except in no longer trying.” ~ Elbert Hubbard
Most of us have experienced the fear of failure to some degree. Equally disturbing is the fear of success. Sometimes what we are attribute to the fear of failure should be properly termed fear of success.
Is the fear of success a genuine anxiety? Might you be experiencing this fear? Ask yourself, is there always something that gets in your way? Do you find it difficult to stay focused? Does your motivation wane easily? Do you have doubts about your ability to succeed?
If you are nodding assent to most of those questions, you may very well be experiencing the fear of success. Fearing success is the barrier to your prosperity. It is this fear you will need to confront in order to accomplish your goals.
There are several factors that give rise to the fear of success:
* Any alteration from our normal routine can be scary. Although there is a certain amount of excitement associated with new ventures, the unknown can produce a degree of panic. You may subconsciously be resisting the change and opting to settle for the familiar.
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* You may be wondering if you can live up to the demands of success. There may be expectations from family and business partners that could produce undue stress. Success is hard enough to attain. Maintaining the prosperity may be a great deal harder. You may have to expend more time and energy. Staying balanced will be difficult.
* If you are a quiet person, you may not relish the attention your success may bring. People will seek you out for advice or set you up as a role model. You may feel pressured to keep up a certain image. There is the fear of losing touch with your inner self. You may resist the intrusion into your private life.
* You may hold to the belief that success is an end in itself and once you accomplish all that you set out to do you may not experience the jubilance expected. The dread is that you will inherit an existence of unhappiness and discontent.
* You may hold to the belief that you do not deserve to be financially successful. Perhaps you think it is selfish to achieve wealth. You may feel unworthy. Or you might even think it is sinful to desire monetary achievement.
Fear of success can result in self-destructive behavior. You may find yourself sabotaging your efforts to achieve and sustain success. This might be manifest in work, in your relationships and even in your personal growth. A lack of effort towards your goals will be demonstrated. This behavior could result in chronic underachievement. Your motivation will wane, leaving you with little ambition to move forward.
When one has a fear of success decision-making becomes a chore. You procrastinate and continually make excuses. This can cause feelings of shame and guilt. Instead of doing the things needed to move forward towards your aspirations, you do the very things that will prevent your achievements.
Your thinking is governed by chronic negativity, and a pessimistic attitude. You find it impossible to visualize yourself as successful. You may be thriving on the sympathy of others and are fearful that if you achieved success you would lose that needed nurturance.
When it comes to your achievements, fear of success can be just as hindering as fear of failure, if not more so. You will need to identify the negative notions you have about yourself and replace them with positive, self-affirming beliefs. A seminar on self-esteem, or a self-help book dealing with replacing negative emotions can help.
If you can honestly identity that you have a fear of success, then take the steps that can effectively create a more positive outlook. Your future can be promising, but it is up to you. We all have choices to make. Chose to work through your fears; opt for happiness and success.
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January 28, 2010 | Posted by Doran Roggio
Times of joy and sorrow alternate throughout our lives, and often we feel as though we have little control over them. While a happy life without any sad moments is unrealistic, by learning to react in more positive ways we can ease the pressures and our everyday problems do not take as great a toll. What then are positive steps we can take to keep an optimistic, cheerful attitude no matter the problems that may work their way into our daily lives, regardless the hardship or disappointment?
Have you ever watched children at play? Appreciate, if you will, the way they bounce back from letdown. They may have had a bad day in school, perhaps a bully accosted them, and something they treasure may have been lost. I could go on about the woes experienced in childhood. The idea being stressed is spend time with young people. The innocence of children, their ability to laugh and get beyond the daily disappointment is uplifting and contagious. It is impossible not to feel unburdened, if only for a little while, when you spend time with children. Learn from the children, they are wonderful teachers. Note their example; how they intensely enjoy each little thing life presents. In essence, take time to play, relax, and let your senses be filled with the gifts of life.
Laughter is the best medicine and a way to alleviate pressure when problems persist. Nothing can provide more laughter than watching the playful antics of animals. Turn on the discovery channel and watch a nature show, one filled with wildlife. If you live in a rural area, a visit to a park, a nice secluded wooded area will produce many sights to amuse and delight. If you are in the city, spend a day at the zoo to lift your spirits.
The stresses dealing with problems can become burdensome if you do not take time for yourself. You have worked hard, struggled with problems and are doing the best you can. Reward yourself. Remember to be kind to yourself because you deserve it. Spend time doing something you enjoy, be it watching movies all day, going camping, fishing, or out dancing. Turn off the phone and take a nice hot bath. Play a game on the computer. The important message here is take time to do what brings you pleasure. Relax and enjoy life and the solutions to daily problems will come much easier when the pressures are eased and are feeling good. Moments enjoyed are a reminder of the good things in life and problems will not weigh as heavy.
Take positive action to face your fears and problems with courage. Avoid feeling sorry for yourself or dwelling unnecessarily over a problem. Take active steps toward resolution. Don’t over analyze, solutions generally work themselves out once we start taking action. The quicker you work for resolution, the less likely problems will seem out of control and the happier you will be.
Spending time with friends is another way of vanquishing worries. Activities with friends provide outlet and takes your attention away from problems for a time so that you are not unduly concerned and will later be able to tackle problems without negative thoughts.
Implementing some or all of the tips mentioned will do much to decrease stress while giving your mind and body a change to regenerate and respond optimistically to stressful influences.
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January 27, 2010 | Posted by Doran Roggio
by Doran Roggio
Do you find it hard to relax? You are not alone. For many relief from financial struggles, work stress, and family problems appears unattainable. Yet, with a few minutes daily practice, one can learn to relax and enjoy life more fully in spite of the daily pressures.
When dealing with stress, too often we seek negative ways of coping which compounds the problems. For example, some may resort to drugs or drinking to temporarily escape the effects of a stressful situation. Others may become reclusive and withdraw from others and any involvement in activities. Overeating, not eating, procrastination, and displays of temper are all strategies that individuals exercise in an attempt to allievate stress.
On a temporary basis these tactics may appear successful, however, in the greater picture the aforementioned unhealthy measures only bring greater stress and like a revolving door it becomes a cycle of dispair. An eventual result may be an emotional collapse.
Put into daily practice the following 5 tips a healthier state of wellbeing and positive outlook on life.
1. Learn how to relax and lift yourself to a calming condition by implementing the techniques of yoga and meditation. Search the term ‘relaxation techniques’ on Google for some exercises that will work for you. Experiment with different methods until you find what works for you and you can achieve success.
2.The old cliche, “Humor is the best medicine” still rings true. When unable to let go of the stresses of the day, watch a good comedian or a funny T.V. ead a funny book, watch the playful antics of newborn animals on the discovery channel. Whatever amuses you, drink it in It is therapeutic to laugh out loud, and you cannot avoid feeling a little better.
3.Hug someone. Hug a loved one, a co-worker, even hugging your pet can feel good. A hug can cheer you up, and soothe your pain. Hugging transfers energy, lifts you out of depression, reduces stress. It can even induce sleep. How relaxing is that?. Hugging is healthy to the body’s immunity system. It’s the all-natural, painless cure-all for what ails you..
4. Count your blessings. I can’t count the number of times I was feeling sorry for my plight and came in contact with someone much less fortunate than myself. Immediately I took recount of my own situation with a more thankful approach and began to feel less stressed. Try it. It works. Each of us has something to appreciate in our lives. Concentrate on the blessings and our problems will not exert so much power.
5. Do something to give your life radiance. There really is ‘more happiness in giving than in receiving’. There is a surge of ‘feel good about oneself’ type emotions when you do something for someone else. If you have never experienced the feeling you are in for something wonderful. When you feel that great about yourself the problems seem to fade beneath the surface. Good deeds beget good deeds. As a result of doing good, you become a channel in which blessings flow back and forth.
Remember to be content with your life, but never give up dreaming like a child. Take each day as it come, say ‘yes’ to the universe, for all things good and bad serve to build your character. Most important of all is keep your thoughts on a positive vein.
…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Phillipians 4:4
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January 27, 2010 | Posted by Doran Roggio
© Doran Roggio 2009
What does it mean to know you? To truly know you is to love yourself. The perception of who you are brings you into an accord with the universe, which leads to a fulfilled and happy life.
Knowing yourself does not mean you intellectually understand everything about yourself. All creation is a mystery to be sought after and you are no exception. To know yourself is to give yourself over to the discovery fearlessly, without reservation allowing for the greatness in you to unfold.
We accomplish much more when we factor in all aspects of our being, the intellectual, spiritual and physical in a coordinated way. Intellectual knowledge alone could produce a blind acceptance. We become more insightful and introspective when we test life through personal experience. We can trust our experience, follow our own instincts and uncover our individuality and true nature.
Knowing yourself is a life long journey and requires conscious effort. Through your experiences and knowledge you build a map that leads you to a happy, abundant life. Your emotions and insights are tools for making necessary corrections. Through intellectual studies, physical activities and interaction with others, new impressions are created. Awareness of these new inspirations is the way we discover ourselves.
Getting out in nature and meditating is an aid in discovering oneself. The tranquility of a natural setting induces an opening up of your internal nature. When we slow down and envision our goals, our inner voice tells us if we are truly happy. If you find yourself discontent or aspiring to something greater during introspection you may need to reevaluate and change direction.
We are happiest when we are doing things that utilize and reveal our natural talents. Understanding the gifts we bring into the world enables us to make wise decisions concerning career choices. What we offer the world is revealed through our natural talents. Self-fulfillment is achieved in finding our purpose in life.
Finding your purpose gives life direction. Think of purpose as the ultimate goal in which all other aspirations are leading. As you experience life all your beliefs, ethics, actions, emotions and thoughts are directing you towards that purpose. To know yourself is to be aware of that propelling force, to understand and fulfill your true potential.
Knowing yourself empowers you to make wise decisions in choosing a career, a mate, where to live, choices that offer better opportunity for happiness. Reflect upon your life daily. Are you going in a direction that gives you joy and a sense of fulfillment? Are you happy? Do you wake up in the morning excited to start the new day?
If you find yourself discontent or unsure of whom you really are you can find self-awareness coaching programs with exercises to aid you. Do an online search with the terms ’self-awareness’ or ‘know yourself’. Knowing yourself requires effort but the reward for understanding yourself and living your purpose is an abundant, fulfilled and happy life.
Know Yourself And Live An Fulfilled And Happy Life
What does it mean to know you? To truly know you is to love yourself. The perception of who you are brings you into an accord with the universe, which leads to a fulfilled and happy life.
Knowing yourself does not mean you intellectually understand everything about yourself. All creation is a mystery to be sought after and you are no exception. To know yourself is to give yourself over to the discovery fearlessly, without reservation allowing for the greatness in you to unfold.
We accomplish much more when we factor in all aspects of our being, the intellectual, spiritual and physical in a coordinated way. Intellectual knowledge alone could produce a blind acceptance. We become more insightful and introspective when we test life through personal experience. We can trust our experience, follow our own instincts and uncover our individuality and true nature.
Knowing yourself is a life long journey and requires conscious effort. Through your experiences and knowledge you build a map that leads you to a happy, abundant life. Your emotions and insights are tools for making necessary corrections. Through intellectual studies, physical activities and interaction with others, new impressions are created. Awareness of these new inspirations is the way we discover ourselves.
Getting out in nature and meditating is an aid in discovering oneself. The tranquility of a natural setting induces an opening up of your internal nature. When we slow down and envision our goals, our inner voice tells us if we are truly happy. If you find yourself discontent or aspiring to something greater during introspection you may need to reevaluate and change direction.
We are happiest when we are doing things that utilize and reveal our natural talents. Understanding the gifts we bring into the world enables us to make wise decisions concerning career choices. What we offer the world is revealed through our natural talents. Self-fulfillment is achieved in finding our purpose in life.
Finding your purpose gives life direction. Think of purpose as the ultimate goal in which all other aspirations are leading. As you experience life all your beliefs, ethics, actions, emotions and thoughts are directing you towards that purpose. To know yourself is to be aware of that propelling force, to understand and fulfill your true potential.
Knowing yourself empowers you to make wise decisions in choosing a career, a mate, where to live, choices that offer better opportunity for happiness. Reflect upon your life daily. Are you going in a direction that gives you joy and a sense of fulfillment? Are you happy? Do you wake up in the morning excited to start the new day?
If you find yourself discontent or unsure of whom you really are you can find self-awareness coaching programs with exercises to aid you. Do an online search with the terms ’self-awareness’ or ‘know yourself’. Knowing yourself requires effort but the reward for understanding yourself and living your purpose is an abundant, fulfilled and happy life.
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January 27, 2010 | Posted by Doran Roggio
by Doran Roggio
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
As we enter 2010, it is obvious that we are ushering in a need for a more well-defined understanding of the ‘Law of Attraction’. Financial problems, family dissent, violent crime, all these things make it difficult for many to perceive and believe in something better. Although they may
desire a prosperous lifestyle, one free from worry, for some it is difficult to envision a life without impoverishment, poor health and problems. It can be difficult to sense the exhilaration one would feel from an experience if one had only known hurt, pain and disappointment.
Difficult as it may be to perceive, you can control your destiny through your own thoughts and emotions. What you focus on daily is what is manifested in your life. Just as the Master of the Universe is a creator, you, too, are a creator. Your experiences are the mirror of your creative thoughts. In essence, what you wish for will be your reality. That is a simple statement and it is the plain simple truth, a natural law that cannot be denied any more than you can deny gravity without suffering it’s consequences.
Does that mean it is easy to apply the ‘Law of Attraction”? While it is not complicated to understand, it may not be easy to apply. No one wants to hear that they are the cause of their own troubles. How many times we hear the comment, “You brought it on yourself”. Little did we realize how much truth that statement holds.
One must look inward honestly. Ask yourself what kinds of thoughts dominate your mind? I have a acquaintance who is a very negative person. This individual spends the better portion of her life depressed and complaining. I tried one time to speak with her about altering her thinking to a more positive outlook. I tried to convince her to stop dwelling on the world’s problems, or her disappointments and look at life more optimistically. The gist of her reply to my urging was that she deliberately thought negative so that she would not be disappointed. I could not make her understand that it was the negative thinking that actually caused the experiences that the defeats.
If my acquaintance would have believed and made an attempt to focus on positive, definitive thoughts, defining her desires and expecting them to be delivered, she would have taken her first steps to applying the “Law of Attraction. Only you can make the difference. How you perceive your life is how your life will be.
Have the Faith of a child
When pondering on the ‘Law of Attraction’ and how it’s principals can be explained, I find myself thinking about children’s stories. In fairy tales and kid’s movies the hero/heroine is taught that their wishes can come true if they meet certain criteria.
The character is taught to close their eyes and wish very hard for the thing or experience they desire. Then the child is told to have faith, that they must believe for their wish to come true. Lo and behold the desired thing is then realized.
This does not always happen as first try. The character is told that they may not be believing wholeheartedly or perhaps they are not wishing (desiring) hard enough. The fable generally ends with the hero/heroine realizing the fulfillment of their wish after they have learned to desire and believe with all their might.
Three Necessary Components.
These children’s stories which convey that wishes do come true through a strong desire coupled with a deep faith in its reality are actually teaching children the concept of the ‘Law of Attraction’. The child is learning first to make a wish (have strong desires), then to believe in its conception (faith) and close their eyes and imagine (experience it’s culmination).
All the old spiritual books teach that we should become like children. Some of us in moving from childhood into adulthood become disbelievers. We lose that ability to trust in the strength of our dreams and the faith in the universe to carry them out. No longer do we believe that wishes do come true or that we have control over our destiny.
The ‘Law of Attraction’ exists whether we believe it or not. What you think and feel in your mind and heart determines what you experience in your life. If you focus your thoughts on negativism and pessimism daily the ‘Law of Attraction’ can only mirror the same elements in your experiences. If you find yourself in a pool of despair, experiencing one trauma after another it is time to look inward and readjust your thoughts. You are in the drivers seat. You can change your experiences.
Give your desires strength. Set deadlines. Have unbreakable faith that you have set in motion the attainment of your dreams. Close your eyes and imagine the results of your desire. If that is difficult for you, ask others to share feelings on attaining their goals. Then imagine feeling
that way yourself.
Wishes do come true. You are the creator of your destiny. But you must believe. Many persons became aware of the LOA with the 2009 movie called the ‘Secret’. I recommend watching this full-length documentary that defines the “Law of Attraction” very well. Apply its principals and you will have learn the beginning steps to creating the life you desire. Wishes do come true if only you believe.
“Discover 11 Other Laws Not Revealed in “the Secret”
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January 27, 2010 | Posted by Doran Roggio
by Doran Roggio
“Do not consider any act of kindness insignificant, even meeting your brother with a cheerful face.” ~ Muhammed
Have you taken note to how limited personal contact with other people is becoming? The fast-pace of today’s technological age has everyone in a rush. In daily mundane dealings we constantly talk to machines. Instead of a real live person to greet and aid us with our questions we find ourselves speaking with an automated service. In the office environment we email the person in the cubicle a few feet away rather than taking a minute to walk over, give a friendly greeting and personally hand them a task list.
Developing rapport with others on a personal level is becoming obsolete. Human beings react to one another as strangers. Many people in today’s society, especially in the developed countries, exist without the slightest feel of a human touch or a word of endearment for days or a time.
Could this lack of personal contact be a contributing factor to the rise in clinical depression? Might the lack of personal interaction be one of the reasons many youths feel the need to join gangs in order to gain a sense of belonging? Saddest of all are those young people who are so desperate to be attention that they become murderers of their classmates. What of the number of youths in today’s society attempting suicide? Is it viable to conclude a lack of a one-on-one close personal contact is a contributing factor?
Recall a time when you have been standing in a line at a place of business feeling anxious and irritated that you were forced to wait in line. Your thoughts were on the mundane chores of the day and you barely notice the individuals waiting with you. It might be that you were even irritated wishing others would get out of your way so you could get done your business quickly.
Without provocation an individual standing in front of you turns and flashes a broad friendly smile. Instantly you receive the warmth that the smile transmitted and your tension is eased. Created a social creature your natural inclination is to reciprocate the smile.
A mere smile, like an embrace, can fill you with feelings of acceptance. The shared personal contact and the warmth emitted gives evidence that you are an integral part of the human race. The individual sharing the smile is changed from a stranger to a kindred spirit. A conversation may result and the irritation of waiting in line is transformed into an enjoyable experience. Perhaps a friendship is made, at the very least you have affected the life of another and you have been impacted as well, if only to make the day more enjoyable and provide an awareness of the need for personal contact with others.
I do not mean to imply that giving and receiving a smile will solve the world’s problems. However, sharing a smile is a good place to start. Imagine how you would feel if everyone you encountered in a day offered you a warm smile and friendly greeting. Then imagine how good you would feel doing the same for those you meet. Being social creatures we need to embrace one another in fellowship. The missing warmth of personal contact is one of the factors that contribute to the stress of today’s society.
As you come in contact with others offer up a warm smile. As you do, you may discover the world will become a friendlier place. Your smile might make a huge difference in someone’s day. You never know what good you will do for others by offering a warm, friendly smile that says I acknowledge you as a part of the human race and not a stranger. The smile you offer another will, no doubt be rewarded with a warm friendly smile in return.
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